Grammar Nazis

I had a comment today, where the writer took me to task, stating that I have spelling errors on my posts.
They found this most disturbing.

I found it equally disturbing that I had to read their comment no less than 5 times to even grasp what they were trying to say.
No worries, you won’t have to read it here…I sent them on to their reward…..

It’s Not You….

Is this great or what?
Cartoonists must read my blog too.
Thanks Mike Peters.

Splitting

Sometimes I get notification of new books on a variety of subjects from Newharbinger.
Here is one that I thought might be of help to some of you.  I am including the link to Amazon.com.

Splitting: The legal and psychological advice you need
Protecting yourself while divorcing someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Written by Bill Eddy LCSW, JD & Randi Kreger

Protect Yourself from Manipulation, False Accusations, and Abuse

Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or is manipulative, divorcing can be especially complicated. While people with these tendencies may initially appear convincing and even charming to lawyers and judges, you know better—many of these “persuasive blamers” leverage false accusations, attempt to manipulate others, launch verbal and physical attacks, and do everything they can to get their way.

 

Splitting is your legal and psychological guide to safely navigating a high-conflict divorce from an unpredictable spouse. Written by Bill Eddy, a family lawyer, therapist, and divorce mediator, and Randi Kreger, coauthor of the BPD classic Stop Walking on Eggshells, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.

• Predict what your spouse may do or say in court
• Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking
• Choose a lawyer who understands your case
• Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you

http://www.amazon.com/Splitting-Protecting-Borderline-Narcissistic-Personality/dp/1608820254/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1367543508&sr=1-1&keywords=splitting+protecting+yourself+while+divorcing+a+borderline+or+narcissist

Please Pray for Diane

A few hours ago,  I received a comment on my “About” page.  I’m calling the commenter ”Diane.”  She told me about abuse at the hands of her husband and her fear for the safety/lives of her children (6 yrs, toddler & infant) and herself.

Diane says:

I don’t know if you can e-mail me privately…I need some help and quickly. I’ve read through a lot of replies and I know I need to get me and my kids out of a very quickly deteriorating situation, but he has it where I CAN’T get my kids. We live in his hometown where everyone thinks he’s great and I’m a psycho recluse that hides in my house. He has flat told me (with those horrible dead eyes) that I wouldn’t get my kids…so I’ve stayed. Last night was a whole new level of horrible. He came in about once an hour or so and yanked my blankets off me and harassed me. I have to get out, but how do I take my kids? (one is 6, the others are a toddler and a baby). He has me looking like the crazy one. Please, please, contact me directly if you can….I don’t know that I’ll be able to check this site again.

Dear Diane: I don’t know where you are located, but if there is any physical abuse, you need to contact police immediately.  Ask the police for the name of a woman’s shelter. It sounds to me like you need to get out and take your children with you immediately.
Where is your family?
Can you call them?
Would they come and get you?

I am not equipped to deal with your situation and I can only advise you to contact police or an abused woman’s hotline.
I know of a young woman in a similar situation who had her ex-husband arrested and she made her escape while he was in jail. 

I hope at the very least, when your husband goes to work you can grab the essentials for your children and leave. Do you have a working cell phone that you can use to call 911? 

Please contact me again to let me know what is happening.

ES

Dear blog readers: Please pray for Diane that she will have the wisdom to know the right time to escape and that she can do so safely and will be able to get away with no harm coming to her or her children.  Pray that if she involves the police/authorities that they will be on her side and will not side with her husband who, whether he is a narcissist or not, he sounds violent and abusive – and may even be a psychopath.  She has been gaslighted and made to appear as the crazy one.  The abusive husband waking her hourly only makes her feel that he is the sane one.  If prayer is not in your vocabulary, send postitive vibes and thoughts her way.  I’ll stick with prayer

FAQ’s: Why are narcissists so mean?

I noticed this question was used today in a search engine to find my blog.

Why are narcissists so mean?

Perhaps, like the Grinch, it is because their hearts are two sizes too small……..
I’m not sticking around to see if the N’s heart might grow three sizes one day…..

ES

Seriously?

I’ve been blogging about narcissism for about six years and today was the first time that I got a silly-assed comment from someone with the name “The Narcissist.”
What do I love about this being MY blog most?  I have the power to delete these comments and I did!
It was truly delightful!

This individual said, “The narcissist is not the same as a psychopath or sociopath.”
No, you’re right, they’re WORSE!

LOL

Let’s make a list……

I was bored this week and I got to thinking about all the things my readers (and myself) will miss during this holiday season not having to entertain the disordered Narcissist in their life.  If your N was a female, feel free to subsitute the female pronouns.
As far as Santa’s list goes?  The N would definitely be on the Naughty list.

You will not have to hear how the gift you got him is inferior to what other sources of supply got him
He will not make any comments about the holiday decorations
You will not open a gift of fishing waders 3 sizes too big for you
You will not have to feign excitement over already/partially used gift cards
You not be expected to clean the floor after the holiday dinner with the fabulous new mop he gave you.
You will not have to listen to him complain that dinner is not how his mother would have made it
You will not be giving him gifts while he has nothing for you in exchange.  (See used gift cards)
You will not have to listen to ANY complaints from him
You will not have to hear him lecture you that you spent too much money on food, gifts, children, decorations…but not enough money on him…
Oh, and let me guess…does he think the Nativity scene represents his birthday? LOL!

In short, your holiday will not be disturbed by the pathetic creature who tries to pass himself/herself off as human.