Can you tell a Narcissist by his eyes?
This sweet cat would no doubt be offended at the comparison.
The individual asking Google the question used the phrasing “Can you tell a narcissist with his eyes.” I don’t think you can necessarily tell what kind of human being a person is, by their eyes.
I have only known one bona fide narcissist and I know what his eyes were like.
Some people are shy, they can’t look you in the eyes for very long. It’s not that they are dishonest, it just makes them uncomfortable, makes them feel vulnerable, to look in another person’s eyes for very long. Being a victim of a narcissist left me feeling fragile and fearful to let people see my eyes. As if, they would be able to see the pain that was written there.
Many people like myself have been harmed by individuals who portrayed themselves as genuine, when in actuality there wasn’t a human emotion in their being….the only emotions they had, were mirrored from another living, breathing person. To look a narcissist in the eye is the beginning of losing a part of your self…they take so much – they take as much as they can and then they leave the shell of their victim behind.
There is the famous phrase that says: “The eyes are the windows to the soul.”
I don’t know if that is true or not. People would be afraid to look anyone in the eye if it was. Everyone would be able to see each others flaws, hurts, their darkest secrets. We know (those of us who were/are victims), that narcissists have no soul…at least it seems that way to us after we have been abused by them for a season or in the unfortunate cases of some…a lifetime.
Since the demise of the narcissist, I have gotten good, or should I say better at reading people. I like to think of it as radar or maybe N-dar. It would be even better to say that I listen to my Intuition now. I watch body language when I meet people; when I interact. I watch how people comport themselves…I watch their eyes. I look to see if they attempt to ‘lock me in their gaze’ and not look away.
There’s a Red Flag waving.
Sometimes I wish I had Sookie Stackhouse’s (True Blood) gift of hearing thoughts. She would be quick to say that she does not read minds, but rather thoughts and feelings. But like Sookie, it is impossible to ‘glamour’ me. Sorry Bill…Sorry Eric, it won’t work.
I will tell you one thing about the narcissist’s eyes….his eyes changed color.
I know, I know, it’s not supposed to be possible, not without contact lenses.
I know it sounds like something out of Hollywood or a popular novel…Edward’s eyes changed from golden to black, when hungry.
I can only tell you what I saw.
The N’s eyes would turn black when he raged or during an episode of Devalue & Discard (we’re not talking Dungeons and Dragons)
His eyes changing color was something that happened many times.
Truly, his eyes looked like a shark’s eyes. Empty, cold and unfeeling….just like him.