Well, how this relates is that I would fathom to hypothesize this: when the “fight or flight” system (Sympathetic Nervous System) is stimulated… several things happen: our lungs dilate (let in more oxygen), Our heart beats faster, blood goes to skeletal muscles (get pumped up) and mydriasis ensues which means: THE EYES/PUPILS DILATE!

When people who are on Uppers/amphetamines/LSD/cocaine… their eyes are DILATED (narcotic use: pupils constrict, become pinpoint).

I learned from a discovery channel show that had presented why when we are faced with a traumatic situation it can feel like an eternity, when it could have happened in mere seconds. For example, like getting out of the way when a car comes almost hits you. The pupils dilate to take in a bigger picture and we see more frames per second, more so than when we are in a normal physiological state.

It would be my best guess that the reason the N’s eyes turn black is that there is a serious physiological response is going on behind their charade/episode of gaslighting. Perhaps like a gambler/cleptomaniac etc… “gets off” on their thrill… the “fight/flight” system (Sympathetic Nervous System) is seriously being stimulated to create such a strong physiological shift in their body… the eyes dilate big time.

OMG! If I see super-dilated eyes that go black in a seemingly normal person… ahhh… I think I am going to back out of that situation!

That is soooo trippy to learn that there are personal accounts of N’s eyes turning dead pan black. Wild. Fish eyes with no soul! This truly must be such a wicked high for the N to have ensued to gain such a strong physiological response for their eyes to dilate to the point of black. Nothing creepy here… sounds like a pure scientific physiological response.

Thanks again for sharing, “elissestuart.” It’s quite ponderous.

Both my N-father’s eyes and my recent N-ex-boyfriend’s eyes changed and became like glazed black marbles. Fish eyes is a great way to describe it.

Empty, void and portraying the deep nothing-ness of their soul. Vacant, harsh and and marble black. Like black holes to suck you in.

Other times (when they were charming / wanted something) they could be soft and a nice brown, even hazel – but when they were about to attack / attacking they turned jet black.

I only wish I could have seen it and ran before my soul became a ravaged wasteland.

Lesson learned!

Thanks for your blog and posts!

My N’s eyes changed color, too. First picture I saw of him on the internet, they were so blue. After we met I discovered they are usually a sort of brown, golden even. He usually wears polarized glasses so one doesn’t often actually see what the color is. And when enraged, they turned very dark.

The last time I spoke with him, several months ago, now that I am free of all my emotional issues with him, I took a good look at those eyes. And I thought to myself, “Fish eyes. Flat, no feeling.” And now I read this.

Thank you, thank you for helping me remember that I really am not crazy.

Hermite:
Oh! You are so very welcome. No, we’re not crazy. In discussing the N it’s the last thing that I ever mention, about his eyes turning black, because I feel like whomever I am talking to is going to get “that look” on their face. You know the one…”Get a net.” As if the rest of all the crazy making behaviors that he exhibted are normal.
Thank you, you made my day!