Sometimes I get my ideas for a post by using the search engine terms. One of my friends pointed this part of the dashboard out to me when I first started blogging. She said, “Look to see the search engine phrases people use to find your blog…” I call these my FAQ’s – Frequently Asked Questions.
How long will it take the guy (the narcissist) to miss you if there’s no contact?
People people, work with me here!!
The point of No Contact is not to make the narcissist crazy with longing for you – remember he’s crazy to begin with!
This isn’t some sort of game we’re playing. The purpose of No Contact is to give you, the victim relief, space, a time to heal, because you need to get as far away from the narcissist as possible. To be fair, there are females who are narcissists, substitute the appropriate pronoun.
No Contact gives you your sanity back. Give No Contact some time and the “N Fog” will clear. You will wonder why you stayed in a “relationship” with him as long as you did. You’ve been severely abused by a narcissist. In my humble opinion, all n’s are psychopaths – they may not live with their mother (her dead body in a room upstairs) run a hotel and come into guest’s rooms with a butcher knife – but they are still, psychos! Do you get it? I think many of us are lucky to be alive. No exaggeration.
Why in the name of all that is holy, do you want this gutter snipe to miss you! He is not what you thought he was, he is false. Nothing that he presented to you was true, all those lovely qualities that so entranced you in the beginning – those were all the attributes that he absorbed from worthwhile human beings and he isn’t one of them! Human or lovely. Some of those qualities that you saw in him that you thought were so special? They were – no doubt your own qualities that he was mirroring back to you.
If you were the one to leave the N -
and in doing so thought that it would give him something to think about — that it would make him wake up and change his behavior to come groveling back to you – Think again!
He woke up all right – looked and saw that his eager, willing, worthless, doting floor mat was gone. He probably said, “Damn, now I have to go and cultivate new supply – Eh, I was too good for her anyway…”
If the N discarded you – (how many times does this make?) his reaction was the same.
Try to grasp this concept, however sick and twisted – The. Narcissist. Doesn’t. Care. He/She – Does. NOT. Miss. You!
How long will it take the Narcissist to miss ?
The narcisssist is NEVER going to miss you!