If you have clicked on this page then I am guessing that you too have had personal experiences with someone who is a Narcissist or who is displaying narcissistic personality traits.
It’s not pretty, is it?
My blog started out as a place that I could share what I had learned about Narcissistic Personality Disorder with others.
It has grown into much more than that.
While I love writing about my family and life, it is very rewarding to hear from other individuals who have read my NPD posts. It is a comfort to know that others were ’sucked in by a vampiristic Narcissist’ too.
I’ve often thought that one of the more abusive characteristics of the N, the ”Devalue and Discard” (that an N so readily dishes out) should be called Destroyed & Devastated. I certainly felt all 4 D’s. This has been an eye opening experience to be sure. Something I would have never chosen for myself. Having been NC for approximately 3 years now; I have been able to distance myself from most of his abuse.
To those individuals who are married to an N, you have my deepest sympathies and blog- friend support.
To those with children with an N, I want to say “Get Out”…but I know those two words are easy to say…
But it is not an easy relationship to end; especially when the N turns psycho.
I was only ‘friends’ with the N and I still remember when he pulled a knife on me…I can still see the look in his eyes.
If you are interested in reading my posts on NPD, (and I hope you are) please click on any of the “N” phrases in Categories or Tags to the right of this post. There are currently about 30 posts on the topic. Having been the target of a Narcissist, I have done my homework. I researched and did extensive reading with lots of yellow highlighting and red wine. I felt qualified to write about this devastating abusive personality type, because I lived through being victimized by an N. While the majority of N’s are male, to be fair, there are female narcissists…my story however, revolves around my ‘frieNdship’ with a cerebral male.
Just noticed you’d added this page. I’d thought about doing that on my blog as so many of my teacher friends access my blog through facebook and ask, “What’s with you and NPD?” They’re looking for funny posts about teaching, and I’m too professional to spill the beans.
I’m not “into” NPD, but “onto” it. I wish I could separate it from the rest of my life, but it’s interwoven into my history now. I write about teaching, life, and NPD. Sometimes I feel like I’ve developed multiple personality disorder!
Jan at planetjan
Jan – Yes, and because of that history we met.
Here’s that bedding analogy again….it may be interwoven into your history, but that fabric is a beautiful quilt…
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ES
I just found your blog today. Been doing lots and lots of reading since finally giving up on my N two weeks ago. Most of what I’ve read so far made me question myself – is he really an N? He seems so normal, so plain and un-evil. But I read some of your blog on ‘pretend guy’ and it hurt. It hurt b/c it sounded so familiar. For 3 years I held on and hoped he’d change – but I realized 2 weeks ago that I had been hoping he’d change his mind about ME. I have always thought something was wrong with me – not him. He convinced me that I was too emotional, too sensitive, too loving, too caring, too high-strung .. he kept his cool for the most part. I’d say esp in front of others, but we were never really around others much … anyway, I’m going on too much. I’ll keep on reading.I’d like to run away … browneyes
Sadly, that plain un-evil type can be so N. Glad you found my blog…there are lots of posts here on Narcissists.