FAQ: Do narcissists realize what they are?
Would a narcissist take his camping chair and steal away to an isolated peaceful pond to sit quietly to reflect on his life/deeds/words?
Would he make a fearless moral inventory of himself and resolve to make amends to anyone he had harmed by his callousness?
I don’t think he is capable of that much introspection. I guess that is probably good for him in a way. If N’s had the ability to care about others, if the were able to realize how much harm they have caused other people, if they knew how much other people hated to deal with them, even for a moment…I doubt they would be able to live with themselves.
(Which I guess would be a good thing….they wouldn’t be walking the earth.)
No, they think that we (the victims) are the ones to blame, for everything. Everything that goes wrong is someone else’s fault. The N can do no wrong. Just like the preschooler who gets caught being naughty, he quickly looks for someone else to blame…even if it’s his teddy bear.
Whenever I read a post from a person who is afraid that he/she has become like his/her Narcissist – I will frequently comment to assure them that if they were becoming like the N, they certainly wouldn’t be worried about it. They certainly wouldn’t be asking.
Do I think that the N might ever have an epiphany and realize what a scum bag he is? Could he develop a conscious and repent from how he has abused anyone having the misfortune of knowing him?
Not in a million years.
The photo above is entitled “Hidden Depths.”
There is no depth to a Narcissist, but there is a great deal that is hidden…especially from their “supply.”