Sometimes I get my ideas for a post by using the search engine terms. One of my friends pointed this part of the dashboard out to me when I first started blogging. She said, “Look to see the search engine phrases people use to find your blog…” I call these my FAQ’s: or Frequently Asked Questions.
On this summer day, one of my Nation’s biggest holidays, I was asked this question on my blog.
I realize that I have readers all over the world, but I am going to use the Independence Day theme here in my response.
When is it okay to break No Contact?
When is it okay to call, email, text, visit……the Narcissist?
Why would you want to take six steps back into slavery?
Tell me, why would you give up your right to freedom from insanity and contact the narcissist?
Why would you want to be oppressed by a Narcissist telling you what to do, what to think, what to be…? Wait, there’s more. They tell you all the things you can’t do: contact your friends & family, think for yourself…should I continue?
I truly cannot think of any acceptable reason for you to break No Contact and have ANY type of communication with the narcissist.
Granted, those who had children with N, have to have some form of interface re: care, visitation, and so forth. But those of us who have been fortunate to break all ties – why would you want to go back to that again?
The only reason that I could come up with is this: A “friend” or acquaintance of the N has died and you feel some sick obligation to tell him or her. Unless the N is mentioned in the will and is set to to receive millions…the Narcisssit is not going to care that this individual has died. If the N is the sole heir….let the lawyer be the one to break the news.