**The names and events were changed to protect the innocent.
I was speaking with a young woman this week caught up in a situation of abuse, stalking and a horrific custody battle for her young child. She had left the abuser, very likely a narcissist, when the baby was under a year of age. That time it was a violent confrontation…..that left her bruised and bloodied.
Supported by her family, however dysfunctional it is, supported nonetheless, she was out of direct contact with the N, with the exception of arranged visitation. Her ex was making it clear to the court that he, the ex, was beyond “jerk” definition. The baby, while confused by all the shuttling back and forth was thriving, being away from the fighting and abuse from the “father.”
Those of you with personal experience know what is coming next.
The N became contrite and apologetic – he asked her to come back, promised that it would never happen again and the young woman wishing for a normal, happy family life for she & her child, agreed. Yes, for about 6 months life was “normal”.
There is no need for me to describe what happened after six months. Suffice to say, it involved many police, sheriff, state and local agencies……..CPS, lawyers, court representatives, lawyers, judges, the morgue/medical examiners office and two families who are bound together by strands stronger than a spider’s web.
There were unbeliveable events that have lead to the young woman finally now being at the point in recovery where she is berating herself for going back to the N. Unable to publicly voice that while this was not the outcome she prayed or hoped for – it was ultimately in the hands of One Greater than herself.
Her self-esteem is low, trying to provide for her child. She thinks that it has been a year since she left the N (the first time since the baby was born.) Wishing that she had not gone back, knowing that she and her baby are lucky to be alive.
Here is the point where she can choose to wallow in the mire or start to reclaim her identity and begin to slowly build a new life for herself and her young child. Let us all pray that she chooses, wisely.